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Surviving Trauma

How do you get over Trauma?

Imagine you're walking through a forest, and suddenly a big, scary bear appears out of nowhere. Your heart starts racing, your body feels frozen, and you're filled with fear. That feeling of being scared and helpless is similar to what happens when someone goes through a traumatic experience. Trauma is like a really big and scary event that happens in your life, something that makes you feel very sad or scared or heartbroken. It could be something like being in a car accident, failed relationship, witnessing violence, or experiencing a natural disaster like a tornado or losing someone close to our heart.

When something traumatic happens, it can make you feel really scared, sad, or even confused. Sometimes, it can even make you feel like the world isn't safe anymore. These feelings can stay with you for a while, and it might be hard to stop thinking about what happened.

But just like in the forest with the bear, there are ways to feel better and safer again. Talking to someone you trust, like a parent, teacher, or counselor, can help. They can listen to you, support you, and help you understand that it's okay to feel scared or upset after something bad happens. Over time, with support and care, the scary feelings can start to fade away, and you can begin to feel safe and happy again.

Traumatic experiences can have a profound impact on individuals, especially when they are not acknowledged or addressed properly. Imagine if you fell down and hurt yourself, but no one noticed or helped you. The pain might get worse, and you might feel even more scared and sad. When something traumatic happens, it can shake up our sense of safety and security in the world. It's like the ground beneath our feet suddenly disappears, leaving us feeling vulnerable and afraid. Without the right support and understanding, these feelings can linger and grow, affecting our mental and emotional well-being.

Just like a physical injury needs attention and care to heal properly, so too does emotional pain from trauma. Ignoring or suppressing these feelings can make them fester and worsen over time. It's important for individuals to have a safe space to express their emotions and talk about what they've been through. Seeking support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals like therapists or counsellors can make a big difference. I, Jennifer Surch with more than a decade of experience in handling cases with people experiencing issues from trauma. I can help and guide you over come it. They can provide validation, guidance, and coping strategies to help navigate the challenges of trauma recovery. By addressing traumas in a thoughtful and compassionate manner, individuals can gradually reclaim their sense of safety and resilience, paving the way for healing and growth.

Types of Trauma

Life can throw some seriously tough stuff our way, and sometimes it feels like we're carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. Let's talk about two big types of tough stuff: emotional and physical trauma.

Emotional trauma is like a deep, invisible bruise on your heart and mind. More often these are from sad life experiences. It happens when something really tough or scary happens, like losing someone you love, or going through a really rough time. Even though you can't see it, it can hurt just as much as a physical injury. Sometimes, it makes you feel really sad, angry, or scared, and those feelings can stick around for a while.

Physical trauma is a bit more obvious. It's when your body gets hurt, like if you fall, from a bite or when you scrape your knee, or get in a car accident. It can leave scars you can see, but it can also leave scars on the inside that no one else can see. It might make you feel shaky, sore, or scared.

But here's the thing: you don't have to go through any of this alone. As a counsellor, I, Jennifer Surch is here to help you navigate through the tough times. Together, we can find ways to heal those invisible bruises and soothe those sore spots, whether they're on the inside or the outside. You've got the strength to get through this, and I'll be here every step of the way. We will guide and assist you from day 1 until you are able to handle your issues and hopefully solve it.

What to do when the people who caused you pain is around?

In life, we encounter individuals who can sometimes bring more stress and difficulties than happiness and support. These individuals often contribute significantly to the stress, depression, and trauma we may experience. It's akin to having a persistent rain cloud hovering over us on an otherwise sunny day. While acknowledging this reality isn't always simple, it's crucial to recognize when certain individuals in our lives may be doing more harm than good. Consider this analogy: just as you wouldn't willingly walk into a rainstorm without an umbrella, you don't have to subject yourself to unnecessary stress and negativity from specific people. It's perfectly acceptable to establish boundaries and safeguard your mental and emotional well-being.

This may involve reducing the time spent with them or even taking a temporary break from the relationship if it's toxic or detrimental. Surrounding oneself with positive influences and supportive individuals can have a transformative effect on overall happiness and inner peace.

Always remember, you hold the power to choose who you allow into your life. Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and inspire you, fostering an environment that brings out the best in you.

Stages in acknowledging your trauma

When faced with challenges or difficulties in life, it's not uncommon for individuals to enter a state of denial, where they refuse to acknowledge or accept the existence of their problems. It's like trying to hide from a storm by pretending it isn't there. However, denying the reality of our problems only serves to prolong our suffering and delay any potential solutions. Denial can take many forms. Some may minimize the severity of their issues, convincing themselves that everything is fine when it's not. Facing our problems head-on can be scary, but it's the first step toward finding resolution and healing. It requires courage and honesty with ourselves, acknowledging the reality of our situation and taking proactive steps to address it. This might involve seeking support from friends, family, or professionals, and being open to change and growth.

Ultimately, embracing reality and confronting our problems empowers us to reclaim control over our lives. It's the path to true resilience and inner strength, leading us toward a brighter and more fulfilling future. At this stage, this is the best time to seek professional guidance. I Jennifer Surch will help you with all my years of experience and knowledge.

They say to fully understand and survive Trauma you must first experience and acknowledge these stages

Denial Hatred Self Pity Depression Acceptance

In the journey through trauma, one of the most pivotal stages is acceptance. It's like finally acknowledging the storm that has been raging within us, allowing us to begin the process of rebuilding and healing. Acceptance doesn't mean surrendering to the pain; rather, it's about facing it with courage and resilience.

When we accept what has happened to us, we open ourselves up to the possibility of healing. It's like turning on a light in a dark room, illuminating the path forward. Acceptance invites us to embrace our experiences, no matter how painful they may be, and to learn from them. Through acceptance, we can begin to let go of the grip that trauma has on us. It's like releasing a heavy burden that we've been carrying for far too long. With acceptance comes the opportunity to explore new ways of coping and finding peace within ourselves.

But acceptance is not a one-time event; it's an ongoing process. It requires patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to confront our pain head-on. It's like tending to a wound, gently caring for it until it heals.

In the end, acceptance is not just about coming to terms with what has happened; it's about reclaiming our power and our sense of self. It's about recognizing that we are more than our trauma, and that we have the strength within us to overcome it. And through acceptance, we can finally begin to truly heal.

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